every guy I like absolutly cannot talk to me or approach me for some reason its always the old busted up pervs lol. I ask them why and almost every answer is "you're intimidating" I have no idea what they mean by this? the only thing I can think of is how I look and dress. my hair and makeup is always done on point and I always dress nicely no matter if I'm going out or to class. how can I be less "intimidating" so guys can approach me?
Beautiful women are intimidating because guys don't approach them for fear of angry rejection. These women attract many men and have to turn down many of them.
Well-done-up women are also intimidating because it shows that they are confident. Many great guys simply can't go toe to toe with a woman in an initial conversation because the physical appearance is simply a distraction to a guy's confidence.
Now, being friendly as the girls have posted is a start, but a danger (i.e. beautiful women danger above).
Dressing down is also a good thing to do because then the guys you see most often can see your casual side and see that you do know how to have an off-day. The more of these you do, the better you'll also feel about yourself. This will show that you can let your guard down and maybe, just maybe, if there's a guy you like, he may notice you dressing down, and this will trigger a response in him that maybe you are approachable.
Is there a reason you always need to have a 5 star quality appearance in public incessantly?
Girls that put off the aloof, or disinterested attitude is not very sexy, and can put guys off.
A little secret that will give you the edge over most women out there. It's very simple.
2. Say "Hi".
Simple as it may seem girls, don't do these two fundamental things. I've instantly felt way more attracted to girls that can manage these "skills", even more so over the girls that are supposed to be "hotter".
To me, a female that is "intimidating" is a female that doesn't have a friendly or social aura/mannerisms.
Since females (for SOME strange reasons) rarely approach guys, if they don't look friendly & sociable, they're doomed to be, at best, sex toys for douchebags.
Most genuine guys don't play the "numbers game" that douchebag-type guys do. The genuine dude may approach 3 females in a week, while the douchebag approaches 20.
Since genuine dudes approach less often, they choose females that have the least odds of rejection based on appearance. If you look mad/irritated/angry in the face, if you're walking fast, if you're sitting with your arms crossed or have other negative body language...
...you repel the genuine guy.
However the douchebag may like the "challenge" of approaching a female that looks unapproachable.
Make sure your aura, facial expressions & body language is inviting & sociable, then you'll have more GOOD guys approach you. :)
there's a girl I work with who intimidates the hell outta me, and I don't typically get intimidated. She's by far the most attractive there, but she doesn't give off an approachable vibe. She doesn't smile unless someone talks to her, even then its not the warmest smile. Her overall 'look' I guess just intimidates me I don't know how to describe it any better
smile at the guys you do like. looking approachable is more about body language than your style.
you're supposed to dress nicely when you leave the house. just because so many Americans have adopted a culture of sloppiness doesn't mean you should dress down to not intimidate insecure guys. if a guy is scared of a woman that looks nice he's insecure. people in the 40s dressed up when they left the house, that's just having respect for yourself and pride in your appearance. why is it a big deal now?