i'm filipino and I am not really into asian girls. I am about 5'11 and 180. I go work out a lot,i don't smoke and barely drink. asian girls are like "hey your too big"lol. I am kinda shy cos I hate rejection and I don't notice if anyone like me lol.
here's the question does anyone like asian guys who is muscular?
so white/black whatever your culture feel free to uncover this mystery cos I don't see a lot of asian guys going out with white/black/Spanish/whatever girls.
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Hey I used to be pretty similar to you. I'm Filipino and I was into the white guy phase for a long time. until my met my boyfriend and he's Chinese! I never thought I'd be attracted to an asian guy. I wasn't even attracted to him at first. We started to date because he had the courage to call me up even though I wasn't really that interested. And after getting to know him, I realized that we had a lot in common and that's when I started to like him back.
"I am kinda shy cos I hate rejection and I don't notice if anyone like me lol."
Work on this because it's what's holding you back! Increase your self confidence and be aware of you body language.
You ask why asian girls get turned off by you? Well you seem to be attractive so I doubt it's really about race or about how "asian" you are. Really, I tend to stay away from the hardcore asian pride asians -_-, because they're living in a bubble. In the end, race means nothing, and character, and confidence, means so much more.
I'm into tall muscular guys, but I'd sometimes shy away from approaching them because they can unknowingly give off cocky vibes. When you're talking to people, focus on getting them comfortable talking with you. Ask them open-ended questions and try making them laugh. Keep the attention off youself and keep the inner negative self-talk to a minimum. (Like, oh no, did I say something stupid? is this conversation going well? what do they think of me?)
Be aware of your body language when you're talking to people, meeting people, or when you're glancing around and making eye contact. Smile often and don't fold up your arms or have too aggressive of a stance.
After you practice this, you'll be more comfortable approaching girls you find attractive.
Maybe you can take a few tips from my boyfriend? This is how he got me.
When you go up to a girl, don't try to hit on her right away or else you'll come on too strong. Don't use pick up lines or try to flirt with her. This will make her put a guard up and be cautious talking to you. Or she'll just shoot you down.
Chat with her, ask her questions about herself and if you have some things in common, keep it going and ask her a question or two about it, make her laugh. Later, if things are going really well, and if she's with her friends try and pull her aside. (maybe offer to step out onto the deck if you're at a party, offer a drink later) Then chat some more. Then you can gradually start flirting, but keep it to a minimum. Then after a while if things are going good, you can ask her for her number and close things off. Call her up a few days later and ask to hang out.
Hope these tips help, remember it's all about the confidence. Let me know if you have any more questions!