A few weeks ago I caught the bus home from work . The only other passenger was a cute guy who I've seen most days on that bus for about nine months . I find him attractive but I had never flirted with him , just enjoyed having a bit of eye candy around :)
This particular day I was walking towards him and he was staring into my eyes . He was sat in a rigid position with no expression on his face , staring . I got locked onto his eyes and we kept staring at each other until I passed him . His pupils were so big that I couldn't see his actual eye color it was as if he actually had black eyes . He wasn't just zoning out he was totally focused .
I thought " well that was strange , I wonder what that was about ?"
The next day I was behind him waiting to get on the bus . He turned round saw me and totally freaked out . He couldn't get away from me fast enough .
The next day I was beginning to worry about catching the bus in case the same thing happened . This time he caught my eye and gave me a nervous smile ( one half of his mouth smiling , the other half twitching ) I gave him a bit of a nervous smile back because I was surprised that he'd done that .
After that day I didn't see him for about a month which was unusual .
A few days ago I got on the bus and he was on it . I sat on the seat next to his but on the opposite side of the bus . He looked across then jerked his head away in a total panic . He didn't look back round just kept looking out of the window .
This made me really worried and a bit angry really because he was making me feel worried about doing such a mundane thing as catching a bus . I decided to speak to him and try and break the ice . I leaned over and asked him his name . He looked really scared but he told me . I introduced myself and said hello . Then he jerked his head away and frantically messing with his phone and fidgeting . I thought " I've tried and failed " and decided to give it one more day and then start to catch a different bus .
The next day I was waiting for the bus when I saw him walking towards me . He stopped for a second to compose himself then as he walked past me he said hello and smiled and walked a bit further down the bus station . I felt really relieved and glad that he'd done that . I could tell that he'd found it difficult to do .
For the last few days when I've seen him he's said hello and smiled and he looks a bit more relaxed than he did . We haven't gone any further than hello and smiling but I'm just pleased that we've got that far .
I'd love to know what you all think about all this ( the eye lock and the oddness afterward !)
Strangely I've found myself a lot more attracted to him since all this has happened . I'd love to get o talk to him properly but for now I'm happy to keep things as they are and see if we just get chatting if he starts to feel more comfortable near me .
Thanks for reading this and I'd be really grateful if you let me know what you think :)
Would this explain some of what has happened ? Maybe he's having a bad time with his S.O. , has a good look at me because I'm around a lot and possibly available and then panics because he has taken it further than he intended . ( I noticed he was looking ) .
Help ! :D
I think things have got to the point where I will just stupid if I ask more questions , I'm stupid ...but even I get the message now !
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He's been watching you "from afar" for awhile is my guess but he's terminally shy. He's really into you so if you're into him, think about being a bit more assertive over time. I'm the assertive sort so if a girl showed that kind of interest in me, I'd probably plop down next to her and say something like, "If I have this wrong I apologize in advance but I feel some chemistry with you and all this beating around the bush is killing me!" and see what happened. I don't think a gal should take that direct an approach but maybe you can dress for him, i.e. more feminine and free. For me, the big turn on is stiletto pumps but you may not be into those. I can tell you that virtually all men love them. Mae West once said, "A woman in red stiletto pumps can make a man bark!" and she was absolutely correct. You don't have to wear them all day. Change when you're off the bus but put on a little low key show for him. A little prance and strut your stuff can work wonders once he gets over being tongue tied. You know what you look hot in. Wear it for him, smile, and look open and welcoming. I'm guessing he'll bite (maybe even literally ;)) Good luck.2