I like expensive things (certain brands of shoes, purses, etc.) so, I buy these things for myself. I'm 24 years old and have a nice marketing job. I pay for everything I have. I don't expect my boyfriend to buy these things for me, and I make that clear. I enjoy having the money to by myself things. So why does my boyfriend always act like I'm high maintenance when I don't ask him for anything?
I'm confused. I thought "high maintainence" meant that I demanded all of these things from SOMEONE else, not provided them for myself.
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Sounds like he's mistaking high maintainece with "she's doing well and it's hard for me to keep up, therefore I am going to act out and blame it on her (typical guy move)."
You know, in the end. You want to find someone on your level and if he's intimindated by you. You might want to think about moving on with someone who can handle your success or at least appreciate it. Trust me though, you don't want to teach and certainly not have the monetary gap be too extreme. It usually ends sour.
That's the long run stuff, in the short run however. guys want to feel manly and that does include taking care of you. Let him buy things for you from time to time and ask him to fix things for you. Guys are natural problem solvers and fixers, it stimulates our brain and makes us have a good sense of self worth. Asking him to do oil changes or fixing whatever will make him feel "needed."
It's no fun for anyone to feel not needed or obsolete.
Or send me money so you can't be as independent bringing the two of you into perfect harmony.1