I haven't found a girl to take my name yet but if I were ever in love enough to ask and she were to accept my request it would be like the ultimate sign of acceptance, trust, commitment, and her love for me. I would feel like she is my girl (sorry if that sounds sexist) and I'm going to protect her and be loyal to her no matter what.
I'd be touched, and feel like I could trust her with commitment. I'd want her to, but I wouldn't force her to, because that kind of defeats the point. I don't care if my father calls me p****whipped, if she wants to keep her name, I'd let her keep it.
My family name has a rich history dating back to English nobility during the renaissance, and French nobility a little earlier. Even if my actual relatives were just shoe salesmen during that time, I think it's kinda cool.
I view it as a tradition :D Should I form a new country I would abolish such a tradition, because its kinda lame. I mean, some traditions are really cool, like lighting flying lanterns or dressing up like dragons, or taking powerful hallucinogenic drugs. And we have changing part of your name - not even half your name, part of your name. I mean, that's just gay, man.