Just be genuine. Both of you would just be wasting time, and in the end you'd fail anyway. As for those guys who claim to be successful, guess what? They have a new girl every couple months. Their success rate is no different than you or I. Just save time, be genuine, sincere, and outgoing. You might fail a lot, but at least you won't be wasting time delaying the inevitable.
Depends. Personally if I have to change who I am, then I can't consider myself successful. But if I didn't mind and just wanted to get my pee pee wet, then sure, play games... women thrive on the drama.