If a women is dressed up in skirt/dress, heels, hair done, and make-up do you assume she's high maintenance or trying to hard? Do you then not approach her?
I've been told I'm pretty, but men don't approach me that often when I'm out at bars and I feel like I might be giving off a bad vibe by how I dress... I grew up on a farm and was a tomboy growing up, so when I got into college and made friends with girls who act more "girly" I pretty much went dress/heels crazy and now always dress up to go out. That being said I don't dress provacatively, I dress for my body type and cover up, but I wear cute tops, a heels, and curl my hair.
Do I need to try and tone down my outward appearance? Or should I just be who I am and wait for the right guy? I don't want to come off as some gold digger who wants clothes/shoes/etc since I am definitely not like that and don't want to attract that kind of man, but I want to seem more approachable. thoughts? Thanks!
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It's about how you act, not how you dress. If you are dressed fly but you smile at him, appear to be friendly and welcoming then you won't come off bitchy. But if you look stonefaced and act standoffish then you will be intimidating. Don't change who you are to please guys because every man likes something different. I know guys who like plain janes and I know guys who like the fly chicks. You're approachable when you smile though1