My boyfriend looks at scantily clad chics on thechive.com etc. I get so worked up by this. I am not insecure but I do feel that Media puts far too much pressure on us women. I also think it is a lame excuse that only men are visual. So are females but we aren't perving 24/7. I work with men and I endure this at home and work. *sighs* Why can I not be "cool" like other girls and be like - he may look but he loves me? I think it is nonsense still.
You get upset because you know it is disrespectful/ degrading to women and it lowers them to sex objects instead of people. You also get upset because preferring to ogle women instead of having a complex, loving relationship is disgusting and it belittles every bit of the effort, time, love, devotion, and sacrifices you have put into your relationship.
i think you need to get over it if he looks on occasion at other women. if he isn't obsessing or doing it in public in an ogling type of way...just accept that you aren't the only girl out there. you are the only girl for HIM but men find women pleasing and will look. I'm a girl and I look - and I'm straight. if you make a big deal out of it, he'll feel constrained and it'll end up being a bigger deal than it is. he will look - men look - and if they don't do it when you're there, they'll do it when you aren't there. a glance is OK - that you don't care implies you know what you are and that you can't be replaced. don't behave as though you are threatened by everything. unless, of course, you are...in which case this isn't the right guy for you. and of course if he's OBSESSED or constantly checking girls out in front of you, then maybe it's time to have a talk or reconsider things