last year I was teased a lot and called ugly by guys so over the summer I fixed myself up a little.
baggy shirts and jeans --> tighter shirts and jeans. nothing super tight or revealing but one size smaller. my body didn't change at all
no makeup --> eyeliner, mascara, lip gloss. it doesn't make me look completely different but I think a little nicer. my face is still the same though.
plain brown, wavy, mid back length hair--> highlights, curled, collar bone length hair.
all of a sudden I'm no longer ugly. in fact, guys have called me pretty and hot this week. my face and body are exactly the same as when I was called ugly, but the stuff around it changed.
so is it the stuff that matters?
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In the superficial world of mingling with others out on the street (or in the club, or where-ever), yes.
While your body may not have changed, it could now be more easily seen that you (presumably) have a nice figure. A face that pops out with some contrast and highlighting.
That's apparently what's necessary to function in that sort of mingling. I conjecture that once you meet the right guy, you won't need to do that anymore. Also, if you find him on an intellectual level first, you won't have to do so much of that in the early part of the relationship.0