ok I need a psychologist advice or a girls advice, when I stay over at my sisters my nice likes me to tell her a story at bed time, most of the time a made up one so I do.
when I'm at home every now and again my mum like me to tell her a bed time story before bed, made up too, I'm 24, my niece is 8 and my mums in her 50's.
now my question is what is it about my stories they like, is it the stories really or is it my voice really to hear before they go sleep.
i don't mind telling my niece a story, but I found it weird my mum want to hear some story before bed.
i must mention because I'm not sure if this is the case or not but my mums not with anyone and my dad died 10 years ago and my sister isn't with anyone either.
could this have something to do with it or I don't know.
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Ahhh I knew someone male died in the family, I was just about to ask that, well I'm a hypnotherapist, so human psychology is second nature to me, Firstly a males voice is extremely important to a child, we naturally have a sense of warmth and authority which brings about security and relaxation...which helps a child sleep.
Odds are its not so much what your saying, as long as your talking to them usually does the trick, but then again you could be extremely good at painting pictures in your stories, just enough to allow her mind to fill the blank spaces with her imagination, your probably also good a t leading the mind through different scenes and emotions which is a credit to you, your actually developing your own inter-personnel skills as well as hers without even knowing it.
Keep it up until she's old enough to think its silly lool
Mothers realize the importance of a man in a childs life, hence why she wants you to do it. Dude, your mum probably feels a lot like a child since your father died, alone, lost, afraid, defenseless...alot like my mother in actual fact.
We often forget our parents are humans as well, your tone of voice or style of speech might remind her of your father, whichever way helps her deal with the loss is good...how are you coping with the loss might I ask?0
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