did you necessarily have to date her to realize she's something more for the long term you don't mind spending ur life with?
what did you feel about her, what did you see in her that made you think of her all the time?
how long of being her friend and getting to know, hanging out with her did it take you to realize you may love her?
i met this guy in classes in college, and I think that attraction was so intense, and the friendship and mental connection became so strong that we both felt something mutual. I think of him day and night and have even imagined marrying him...i think he may have loved me but never made it official or told me or asked me out...i think its because of our religion differences...but is it true? can a guy love a girl and go on thinking of her, and can he be impacted so much by her that he may love her?
I am in that situation right now. I have never dated this girl we are not in a relationship. I met her at work. We worked together for 4 months. Then three years later or not talking I got in contact with her. We email each other now and then went on one date before she had to go back to college. I don't know what it is I have never felt this way about a girl. Although I think she is the most beautiful girl I have ever met. Me wanting her is not physical. I think about her everyday, and I have the biggest smile on my face. I want her for life, she is the girl I want to marry. She is smart, has a sense of safistication and class about her, well spoken, culture, and we have the same interestes, even the same views on how to raise kids. I mean I have had crushes before and they have gone away this is more then a crush it has stuck. If I were lucky enough to call her mine, she won't have to worry about me looking else where to me she's perfect, the bad part is she doesn't know about it. Let me ask you would you want someone to tell you this if they felt this way about you? Granted we are friends but not good friends. At least I"m not in the total friend zonel.
I really loved twice with all my heart: first time from my 14 till my 18, a girl in my class. It wasn't mutual, but I didn't even think about trying to date another one (stupid me!). She was everything: kind, intelligent, beautiful. When we meet now (once a year), there is a feeling of caring tenderness, more than there was then, no love.
Second time I was 20, at University. She too. We were acquaintances (2 or 3 months hanging out), then friends, 1 week) Then we thought we knew "it". I asked for a weekend to think it over and.. and we started dating. A few months later we were sure we loved each other. She was and remained everything: kind, intelligent, witty, romantic, nice to look at.
We are still happily married, we're still in love. Both atheists.
ehhh the marrying thing is a bit farfetched...remember the divorce rate is high for a reason. Everyone needs time to think things through. Acting on sporadic thoughts might not be so good. But hey, if the compatibility is there...go for it. just take it sllllllowwwwwwwwwwwww.
I'm obviously not a guy but I'm madly in love with this guy in one of my classes.. I'm popular and he's a drama geek I never thought he was attractive until I saw how smart and funny and unbelievably kind he is! When I would talk he always stared right into my eyes and made me feel like the most important person in the world! I soon found myself thinking about him constantly not being able to sleep on weeknights when I knew I'd see him the next day, being away from him was painful and sometimes I just get this numb feeling because nothing matters when he's not around. Being near him is the highlght of my day and when I see him smile my breathing gets short and my heart races he is like a personal high just seeing him makes my day! But he is shy and has never had a gf.. He's also really into his school work and religion as well as football so when I told him I liked him he was flattered but I guess he just has no time for a girl. He said he doesn't date.. I was crushed I've never been rejected before and I have never felt this strongly about anyone! We don't talk outside of class so I can't get closer to him I'm way to nervous to talk to him but sometimes I wish I could just tell him how much I really do love him! I find that when I think about it I'm so passionate about him that I cry I have never been so heart broken in my life but I don't want him to feel guilty or think I'm pathetic so I'll never tell him how much I care! All I want is for him to be happy even if I suffer honnestly he has given me so much already! Now I can say I have felt true love and yes it's the most amazing thing I have ever felt even if the feelings not mutual!