So I had a few chats with this girl I've met before but didn't really know her. She likes me now, I like her too but she isn't that good looking..as in she's pretty only with makeups on. should I meet her again for a date or just stay being friends on the net? Guys and girls please help!
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[[Sorry for the wall of text, but I tend to get all philosophical on these kinds of questions (o.o)...]]
So you initially liked her for looks, got it
you started to like her further because of personality, got it
You started to see her more often and noticed a few... er um.. defects, got it
Now your having doubts about the whole thing
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your situation is not rare, and contrary to popular belief, there are tons of people who go by looks and then personality; and out of that ton, there are only a hand full that are willing to admit it. How do I know? because despite how much I try to say I'm not, I'm just like you man.
That said; I would say for her sake meet her again for a date, but find as many possible ways to hint that you aren't interested in becoming exclusive. My reason for saying that is because you obviously like her for her personality, but have recently lost interested in her as a mate, so you no have to find a way to venture back into the "friend zone" so you can keep her as a good friend, and she won't feel betrayed.
Note:: of course its your choice, but I would highly recommend getting into the "friend zone" and avoiding completely the "Friends with benefit" zone. This will only worsen the situation not just for you and her, but also for those on the outside looking in (I.E. all of us T.T), and we don't really want that now do we :P
No one wants to encourage you to be that one guy that destroys the innocent girl's heart, so the common response to your situation is "hey stop being shallow and get out of her life" but I'm almost 100% sure that if we were in your shoes (completely-- guy/girl preferences and all), we would defiantly not consider it being shallow, but only picky.
We all have the dream of having the mate with both the bronze and the brains, but so many of us rightful so make adjustments and exceptions so we can avoid all the dangers of heartache and eternal loneliness. But even still, what's wrong with trying your hardest to have your cake and eat it too if you sincerely care (which it seems you do) about the effect it has on others?1