I'm not being full of myself and saying that I am the most beautiful woman in the world, cause I know I'm not. But I do know that I am quite an attractive woman, so much to the point that men get so caught up in my appearance that they don't really bother to get to know "ME". If I show just the slightest hint of who I really am I am immediately rejected and the men start to lose whatever respect they had for me. My ex once told me he saw me as something "Innocent" not breaking the rules or anything. It's like these men put me on a pedestal and expect me to be perfect in every way.
It's frustrating and it often times brings me to tears because people only except me for what they see on the outside and not for what really matters, for who I am on the inside. I have been dumped on numerous occasions because of this. Men have claimed they loved me only to realize much later that it was just pure infatuation. It really enrages me to know that no single man has accepted me yet for the person that I am.
Is there something wrong with me, why can't these men look beyond what they see at the beautiful person that I am on the inside. Many people think that attractive people have it easy in the dating scene but we get hurt just as much as anyone else. We are just like any other person. I don't see myself better than anyone but I hear this a lot about attractive people having it easy when it isn't true at all.
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I can't say why this keeps happening. Mainly because I don't know anything about your personality. You didn't even indicate what kind of things you show them when they leave. It may be important. Sometimes timing and context could be important. Like maybe you said something and it came out the wrong way, or maybe you said something too soon. I don't know. All of that is of course assuming that it's you, and it might not be.
I don't think it's all men though. I think it could be as simple as bad luck, or maybe you're going for all the wrong guys. For example, it sounds like you're going after a bunch of shallow douchebags. When you do decide you wanna date someone, what kind of things do you look for in a man? Maybe that has something to do with it. I don't know.
Wait... no I just read what the others wrote and how you responded.
OK, this gives me a little to work with. If you're insecure, that can send people away. I mean insecurity is part of being human, but depending on how obsessive you get about it, or how neurotic you can be, it could just make you seem like you're more crazy than anything else. (It pplies to insecure men as well) Also if your insecurities manifest as jealousy or paranoia, that could also be shooting yourself in the foot, because nobody wants to deal with jealousy.
I have other thoughts on this, but ultimately I still need more information.1