So I have always been a sexy girl with fabulous curves. I love dressing sexy, its a confidence boost for me. I mean I work pretty hard in the gym each day. I am revaluating myself and making some changes...i tend to attract men who just want sex. I don't want to dress like an old maid, or super nerdy..i am sorry that will never appeal to me. I mean seriously I am not going out to a lounge or bar in a turtle neck.
I usually wear something like a mini dress...not too much cleavage or anything hanging out, and guys just flock to me. I admit I posted a pic on my online dating site of me in bathing suit...it was pretty sexy...i took that down because I realized I was getting attention fron the wrong guys. These men don't deserve me..and I am tired of being played.
I still want to be sexy but just not too sexy to attract those type of men. I love tight skinny jeans Because they look fabulous on me and pair it with a flirty top...but not too much cleavage...i mean I don't look like a playboy bunny or anything. Anyways...can you give me advice and post pics of outfits /styles you think are sexy but not too slutty. I just don't want to loose all of my style with this transformation. I love sexy things...victoria secret underwear..the works...makes me feel ultra feminine...again I don't want loose my sexiness , but I don't want to be seen the wrong way either...any advice?
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First all of all...I offer my condolences to you, Ms. QA.
Because you seem to be feeling the "bad edge" of the double-edged sword of being attractive to the masses. Attracting men is good, attracting "na-na hunters" and, in essence, deterring the "genuine guys", is no fun for you. *hugs* :(
You reminded me about this ? that I asked, which was one of the most popular ?'s I ever asked, with good reason:
Imo, if you have a good-looking body, nice breasts and a yummy booty...frankly you don't have to show off much skin at all. The shape of your body alone is enough to attract men in general.
To "tone it down", I say that you should wear tops with minimal skin (I know you don't show much cleavage).
I say minimize showing of shoulders / neck / back / legs. Wear cute skirts but not necessary super-mini ones. Wear tops and bottoms that aren't TOO form-fitting. I see no problem with makeup and jewelry based on the one pic you have. I can understand, after describing yourself, why you don't want too many pics of yourself up.
With a very curvaceous body, you don't need to wear a lot of revealing clothes to attract men. Keep it covered up, and let your curves (rather than curves + revealing clothing) attract the guys, and the % of sex-hunting players approaching you should decrease.
P.S. If you want to post pics, but are concerned about perverts, make your profile private. Only your friends can see your pics if you set your profile up like this. If you need help with this, let me know. :)2