It seems very apparent that girls don't care as much about what a guy looks like as guys care about what girls look like. Now before I get eaten alive for that comment it makes sense. Females are the ones who bear children, so men have to know that they have good genes. And males are typically the ones who defend, fight, and protect their family so women look often for men who bring status, power, and things of that nature.
So my question (mostly for girls) is do you actually look for good looking guys for boyfriends? I assume everyone is different, but many women seem to have the opinion that as long as the guy is average looking, they'll date them for their personality. Is this true for you? How much do you value attractiveness in a partner?
Woah 1 star? I didn't think it was that bad a question. I'm just trying to ask a legitimate question about preferences I'm not complaining about my own experience at all. So I don't understand why this question is "miserable"
You know...a lot of girls admire the beautiful men in magazines and on t.v., but I honestly think that what they're looking for is someone who is real and will treat them well. Sure, you have to be attracted to them physically on some level, but a great personality would either sustain that attraction you have for them or make them more handsome in your eyes...
Nope. I don't and most people I know dont. Of course in our minds the guy we like is very attractive to us so it's not like we purposely go "oh he's ugly I want him"... we just like personality and the way he carries himself. yes, the whole protection whatever thing is true. If a guy has a good personality and can make you laugh and smile and is nice, then he becomes more attractive in our eyes. So yeah, looks are pretty insignificant even for girls who think they only like good looking guys... most of the time those guys are ugly (from what I've seen)
In my opinion, it does matter a lot. It might not necessarily be to the standards of everyone else but if I find him attractive and he's got a good personality (in my own opinion) then yeah why not. Looks do matter though, I'm not going to find a guy who I think is gross, somehow sexually attractive. It doesn't work like that. It just depends on the girls standards and what she thinks is acceptable.
Okay so here's the deal. People are subconsciously attracted to the opposite gender who share a general likeness or proportion to themselves. Everyone has a differing opinion on what makes a person attractive. I would love to say that all I care about is personality but that is a fallacy. I like guys who are only a little bit taller then me and are in decent shape (not overtly muscular). However I have to find someone who is both attractive, and has an AMAZING personality before I will become interested.
I have my own personal list for a boyfriend.. I think goodlooks is somewhere in the low middle... First impressions to me are not that important.. The guy I like now... I really hated him when I first met him.. now I practically love him haha. I think being intelligent, fun/funny, and talented are the first three things.. I don't want to date a guy that is stupid.. but I don't want a guy to be way to conceded about his intelligence.. I also want someone who is trustworthy and kind. no jerky guys,.. So to answer your question I think looks are semi important but not the only things I personaly look for.. Good luck and don't worry:)
Of course it would be nice if he would look nice, but what's much more important is the character. I wouldn't spend/waste my time with someone who is nothing but good looking. It's a warm and friendly personality that makes someone handsome. I think the person you love will always be beautiful for you! Furthermore, looks aren't for eternity!
I want someone I find attractive, but I'm not looking for Brad Pitt or anything. A lot of times, I have found hot guys to be jerks (not all of them, but more than not). It's like they have this attitude that they're hot and they know it. Arrogance isn't attractive. I'd call my last boyfriend average, but to me he was always the greatest looking guy in the room because of how much I loved him. My friends would have definitely said he was average, though. It totally depends on how the girl feels about the guy that determines his attractiveness. I'd take a great personality of drop dead gorgeous looks any day.
He has to be attractive to me. I may have very different tastes than others and I definitely do not look for a ten. I look for a certain character and intelligence and a sexual attraction. But those are vvery individualized things.