I know for guys it definitely matters but girls are always saying personality matters more for them.
Thing is, I have a good personality, and I'm a nice guy, also with quite a bit of talent. I'm fairly good looking but not hot. More average or cute by a girls standards. But given what they say, I should have much more luck than I do... Looks matter don't they?
Just because you aren't getting girls doesn't mean all girls only want good looks and the rule that personality matters more is irrelevant. Maybe your personality isn't clicking with the girls you're meeting, doesn't mean anythings wrong. Every girl has a different type of guy she likes... there's nice guys and there's nice guys with something extra in their personality which draws me to them. You will find a girl like that eventually but no, looks don't matter too much since beauty is subjective.
Yeah, it matters, but to what degree depends on the person. Looks and personality may have nothing to do with why you're single though. As important as looking good or being a nice person is, so is going out and meeting new people, socializing, showing interest in girls you like, etc. People can only like your personality and realize you guys are compatible if they get to know you, so the more people you meet, the better your chances are of finding the right person.
I think anyone who wants to change their single status, guy or girl, should be proactive about it. Not that I'm saying you're not, but many people forget that there's more to it than being a good catch, that putting yourself out there is probably more important than anything else.
Yes but personality and confident matters 3 times more. A girl will get to know and trust a good guy who has his **** together. She could even introduce her friends. A guy will most likely won't do that for a girl. So anyways, personality rocks but you have to understand that even with a nice personality, a girl does not want a guy to be a pushover. Be confident, ambitious, and funny are the answers. This is just my opinion and observation.
honestly, I prejudge (I can't help it, EVERYONE does- whether you're a guy or girl) but if you're a douchebag, then you're no longer attractive to me. of course, it could work the other way around. I've gotten to know a guy THEN started to like them a little more.
Well the thing is looks are the first thing that attracts you to a person, but the personality is what makes you like them. Even if a person is not particularly attractive you could still like them for other attributes they have so they aren't the only thing that matters.
Just because personality matters doesn't mean looks don't.
Also, don't mistake 'personality' for 'being nice'. Both men and women like people they are in relationships to be 'nice', but 'nice' is not the personality factor that women find attractive. Its more confidence, drive, leadership, passion, being comfortable with yourself, being able to laugh, sexual, etc.
Women rarely admit face to face that it's looks which goes first, and then only, if they aren't too dumb, personality (some just go for the looks and then wonder why their life sucks).
People expect them - and that's how they are raised - to behave in a diplomatic way, to never make enemies. Look at all the posts here articulated on the "I don't like him, will he hate me if I tell him" credo.
If you're average-looking (99.9% of mankind - men AND women - are in this category, don't worry), you have to use something else to attract them. And that is self-confidence, which you can't really have if you have no personality.
This will really compensate your lack of "hotness". An intellectually grown-up woman will think like this too, anyway.