I'm really plain, I'm not ugly, but I'm just plain. I love my friends and I'm not planning to get "new friends" so please don't suggest that. The problem is that whenever we go out, they get all the attention from guys. I know shallow attention isn't everything in life, but as women, we like it, we want it... and not getting it, and seeing how my friends get heaps of attention, well it's depressing. This will sound like a high school thing, but my latest interest likes one of my friends, who is much prettier... I have a lot more in common with him, I even think he liked me, until he met her, and then he was all over her. so no matter how great my personality is, it seems that a nice "exterior" is still more powerful :(
I know that just means the guy was shallow and I'm better off, but it's hard to accept and be OK. Being surrounded by beautiful friends and seeing how much fun they have and that I don't just really gets me down sometimes, and if I tell them that, they just look at me like I'm crazy and go all "Don't be a fool, you're pretty, you don't want the attention anyway". They kinda belittle the problem, and I mean it's fine, they don't understand it. I just feel very lonely in this, but I don't want to get new friends just 'cause I'm ugly.
I guess I just want to know how to be happy despite all this, especially when we go to clubs or places with lots of guys. Oh, and how to get over the fact that my crush is all over my best friend, even "liking" and commenting how pretty or beautiful she looks in all her pics... and she gets a lot of attention from a lot of other guys, and I get nothing... I'm sorry I sound like I'm 15, but this really makes me feel bad, I thought I would not have to deal with this crap at 23, but I still do... when will it change? When will looks truly stop being important?
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well what about you isn't as "hot" as your friends? are you sure it isn't a confidence issue? like if your the only one hunched over with bad body language feeling awkward then that will make you less attractive. or maybe you need a slight makeover to get on their level? your not ugly, if your plain then plain can be fixed by cuter clothes, different hair and better makeup. swag is very very important. swag can increase or decrease your attractiveness so you might just need a little makeover2
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