My guy really wants to tell me how I should look, what I should do with my hair/weight/appearance. He's a nice guy and I understand that guys are primarily into relationships for visual/sexual reasons. I resent being told what to do, but then I also realize that most guys would just go sleep with someone else and he's probably just trying to make sure he stays attracted to me. I don't know what to do -- should I just do whatever he asks?
He's not a nice guy. If he didn't like how you looked then he shouldn't have started dating u. you don't begin dating a girl you aren't attracted to and try to mold her into your perfect idea like she's a doll instead of a human with real feelings and emotions. You should get a backbone and tell this MF where he can go and dump him. I'm sure he's not perfect either, is he a male model? I bet there are things you could nitpick about him but you dont, so why can't he give you the same consideration? there are other guys you could be dating. if he isn't appreciating you then show him the door. and if you're gonna keep making excuses for his behavior instead of seeing him for what he really is then get used to feeling like crap its only gonna get worse from here
I think this could go either way. If its every little thing, its controlling, if its a few key things that matter a lot to him, then ... well its sort of insulting if someone doesn't care about what you find hot.
You should do what makes you happy first and foremost. To change your appearance to what he wants then he thinks he has some control over you. As long as you have good hygiene then you should look how you want to to make yourself happy. I could understand it if you were dirty and did not keep your hygiene on the good side. Other than that he should accept your apperance for how you like it or it means he is being superficial.
I would call his behavior “the fixer” his trying to fix you…men are “fixers” by nature, we try to solve all our daily problems by defining the problem, think/ask/consult/research for the best solution and then we implement. When me and my dad went to the car lot to buy me my first car…I was so excited and I had a good idea of the car that I wanted (a black & blue 1980 Camaro)…but what I could buy was a rust bucket of a 1980 Camaro, but still I could see the potential and better I had a plan to fix her up just the way I dreamed about. The difference is you’re not broken & you don’t require fixing. If you want to change…do it, but do it for the right reasons…
He's not going to feel trapped unless he's asking for major changes. Think about it. If he's asking you to shave instead of trim or something relatively without consequences, it's not controlling. If he's asking for a boob job, then he doesn't like you for who you are.
Give us an example in an update so we can know what's the deal here?