Ok,women this questions has never been asked.
But say a guy grew up without a male role model. And hasn't had that much dating experience.
But at the same time knows has a knack for making up what he lacks. Like what to look for in a woman,what makes a relationship work? And an ability to make up what he lacks. At the same time no matter how hard he tries. And puts himself out there he gets overlooked And has confidence and a sense of humor. What advice would you give him?
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I'd say you're trying too hard.
Case in point. Last week I was at the library and when I turned my head there was a guy hovering over me. He introduced himself and said that he came over to say that he thought I was pretty. I was a little thrown, but he seemed nice enough. We got to talking. I explained that I was not interested in dating, but we were in the same major and it's always good to meet new people so no, he was not bothering me (he asked if he was bothering me). He suggested grabbing a beer, as a friendly thing. I said ok. Bad idea. He kept talking about how he would make a great boyfriend, all his qualities, etc. While he had some good things to say, and I trust the these are truly qualities he has, he also just overdid it. He ignored the fact that I was not interested, and I when I said it the umpteenth time, he blamed it on me thinking he wasn't attractive enough. At that point I left.
He was a little weird in the end, but I think he truly suffered from knowing what you know, and just putting it all out there way too fast. You shouldn't have to list off your qualities. If you truly have them then they will show through. A woman worth dating will see that. You also shouldn't over do it. Me personally, I can't stand when I meet people and they go straight into the whole dating thing. It's not that they don't seem great, it's just too much. At this point in the game, we're just talking. There's no need to go go overboard.
You just need to back off a bit. It's not that you have to play games and act like an ass, but just be normal. Pretend you were talking to your guy friends. Honestly, I will be far more interested in a guy who treats me like a friend when we talk than someone who treats me as a future girlfriend. I choose if I want to date someone after I know them and feel comfortable with them. I never go into meeting someone with the intention of dating. I just like to be treated normally, and honestly that's how a lot of women prefer it.1