This question isn't meant to belittle anyone so don't take it that way. This is a drama free zone thank you :)
I noticed much of the dating advice given to men always has to do with personality or conversation. I rarely ever hear anyone give advice that's centered around improving looks. Also I know some girls (on this site) say "looks don't matter" and I was wondering if guys were getting confused, thinking his looks don't matter at all and that girls don't care about it?
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I think a lot of guys are unclear regarding how much looks matter, and what exactly that means.
When I was younger, I knew girls cared about looks, but advice was rarely focused on doing something like actually getting muscles. I was sort of given the impression that the kind of girl you'd want to date wouldn't go out with a guy just because of that. Of course that was completely wrong, the sort of girl I want to be with cares a lot about her partner's body because she actually has a sex drive and isn't just looking to walk around holding hands discussing poetry.
Also, I think a lot of people will say 'a girl will day you even if XYZ'. Well that's all fine and well, but actually 'dating' doesn't mean you're home free. What if you actually want her to be really turned on by you?
I think a major issue is that young guys tend to be given dating advice by older female relatives, who tend to encourage them simply to be charming little princes rather then giving them advice that would make them sexually desirable.2