I get called hansdome a lot and hot here and there. Is being called handsome a bad thing? Women tell me that it is better than being called hot. It is like that want you around them longer than the "hot' person and that would make you marriage/long term material. But at the same time being called handsome makes you feel like a sloppy second.
younger women would put hot above handsome but an older woman or stable young woman would put handsome above hot.
So which is really better or is it all in the eye of the beholder?
So would a woman call an ugly guy with tons of cash handsome as if he was good looking?
I recently had a random woman wanting a friend request on a social networking site and I asked her about the invite she sent me out of the blue... She told me that I was handsome and that is why I got it... I sometimes wonder why women just do not come out and say man you are so handsome/hot I wanna "do the nasty with you" lol. Guys are more up front about it but why not women?
Also I have had women accuse me of being a player due to looks but I am a homebody that lifts weights.
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Well, I'm not an English native speaker. I can be giving you a totally wrong answer xD , so I thought I should warn you first... But we do have our own words in my country, so I guess I can also give you a good answer, if you're interested in a young woman's point of view :)
When you say one guy is "hot", that's usually a kind of "shallow" compliment. Meaning, he can look hot for a moment, or can be looking attractive, he can be extremely attractive... But I, personally, don't believe it to be the best compliment out there... Not in English nor in European Portuguese...
And when you say someone is handsome, you're mostly referring to them physically, but also to the "air" that person has around them. If a guy looks handsome, he implicitly looks confident, masculine and has a certain "gentlemanish" quality about him. And that? That is so much more attractive than looking hot...
Well, I hope this somehow helped you out :)2