Mt boyfriend doesn't think I am pretty or good looking but he has told me it doesn't matter to him. At first I was really hurt to hear this. He said he couldn't lie to me and say I was when I wasn't. Said it pained him to lie but he is happy and loves me.
I have been in many relationships before and always been called Beautiful or pretty.
I feel hurt and numb. What do I do?
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First, you need to learn not to ask questions that you might not like the answers to. You put him on the spot for no reason. Obviously, if he's with you, he's attracted to you. Why isn't that enough?
Second, he may have a warped or over-inflated standard of beauty, and if he does, he probably knows it. Maybe you aren't his normal "type," but obviously he likes you well enough to be with you, even dispite his preferences, so really, his feelings for you are STRONGER than those preferences, and more important to him than they are. That should make you happy.
Look, we all know how much women's appearance plays into their self-worth, so we get why you feel bad. But this really doesn't change anything. He CHOSE you, and is still choosing you every day. And he was honest with you, when most men would have lied (if they felt as he does). That in itself is hard to find.
You are MORE to him than your outer beauty. Do you know how many girls would give anything to find a guy who cared more for her inner beauty than the outside? You are lucky.1