I constantly get told that confidence is what makes people attractive, than guys are attracted to a girl's nice personality, that looks don't matter.
I think it's complete BS. But more importantly, how are you supposed to be confident if you are ugly? Like, can't lose weight, broken face, etc? How are you supposed to feel confident and attractive when you're not? When most people would call you delusional for believing you're attractive?
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An ugly person is usually someone who just hasn't tried hard enough. Very few people are actually "ugly", and many are just too lazy to make the changes needed to become more attractive. The "can't lose weight" thing is a perfect example. There are people who can't lose weight for medical reasons, but a lot of people who say they can't can, they're just making excuses. They'd rather eat junk food, drink alcohol and not have to go to the gym or exercise to keep themselves in shape. Instead of doing that they try to tell people that "it's not all about the looks" and they tell each other that it's all okay and that they don't have to do anything to change it because "everybody is beautiful in their own special way", and you're right, it's complete BS.
So the solution is just to do your best to make yourself more attractive. Once you've done that stop worrying about it. I mean for me, I know that a lot of women prefer taller guys. I'm 5'4", very short for a guy. But I go to the gym, I eat good, I wear nice clothes, and I believe that I'm attractive to some girls. I don't worry about not being tall enough (because that's something I can't change) but I make sure I focus on the stuff I can change (keeping in shape, fashionable clothes). You know what I mean?2