I used to have a friend who weighed between 170 - 190 pounds and she always got the most AMAZING guys to date her... like some of them were studying to be doctors, some of them worked in corporate finance... a lot of the were 6 feet tall or higher, with about 8% body fat or otherwise skinny in some other way, many of them were lawyers etc... and I was always shocked that she was able to get such amazing guys to date her...
I told my friend last week that I volunteered at a party for disabled people and I had 6 guys hit on me in one night and she accused me of lying... like I don't think I'd be able to attract 6 corporate lawyers in one day but these guys are disabled so they are more interested and available than the millionaires or supermodels...
Why did I underestimate my friend whose married to a 6"4 lawyer right now and why did my friend underestimate me?
What do I have that she doesn't realize?
And what did my 190 pound friend have that I didn't realize?
Guys enjoy a beautiful girl, no doubt about that, but a guy's definition of beauty will be all over the map (every guy is different), and not nearly as narrow as you assume. But personality is far more important; as long as he isn't totally turned off by the girl's looks/appearance, then personality is the main thing he's going to use to decide to persue her or not.
Girls get so caught up on external appearences that they forget that anything else is important, both for themselves, and for their friends.
it's question like these that make me realize just how shallow girls can be. weight, height and status are not the only three things that are important in life. true friendship is much more important, although it doesn't sound like you guys have that. what is it, jealousy? a competition to see which of you is the most attractive?
You're too focused on the physical(imperfect) qualities of your friend so much to the point that you can't even see the real reason why these men are drawn to her. Maybe she has something personality wise that can't be seen with the eyes. Maybe it takes someone who isn't judgmental of her right off the bat to see it. MAYBE it takes someone actually liking/loving this woman for who she is in order to see it.
MAYBE the reason why you can't attract these types of men is the same reason that is permeating from this question. MAYBE it takes more of looking inward within your self rather than outward judging others.