I guess this isn't if you THINK you are attractive, but know you are from the way men treat you.
Do you TRY with guys? Basically, if you like a guy and want to go out with him do you ever ask him, ever try to flirt with him, if he pushes away a little do you still go for it?
I ask because my whole life I've been unattractive do to being fat, but now I'm not fat and I'm more attractive. Not a super model, but pretty. I always thought girls got with guys because they were hot and guys just went for them. I was told that was wrong. Sometimes when I watch shows or movies a hot girl will go after a guy by going up to talk to him, making herself known if he is not showing enough interest. I'm wondering if this is realistic or if I should just leave guys alone even if I like them because they don't go for me first.
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Women are actually suppose to encourage men to approach - that's right, we make the FIRST moves on a guy.
Men inherently wait for " cues " from women to signify to him that she is a potential mate - sounds pretty primitive, and that's because it is :) courtship within all living creatures is still very instinctual and natural; the females who were ready to breed way back when, got approached by the most males because they gave off those signals. Makes sense right?
A lot of what we see going on with dating today, is that men are left chasing after uninterested women, because the phases of our society has nurtured women to NOT give off these " cues ". As you see, that causes difficulties in dating / meeting for BOTH the man and woman.
So how do we fix it? We quit screwing with nature and let it actually take it's course.
I know I'm a pretty attractive girl - and I don't mean that arrogantly; but I have had men approach me regularly and find myself feeling bad for turning down the guys that I do - and I'm sure they are just as frustrated. However, when I get a crush on a guy, I talk with him, mingle, flirt and do whatever I feel to indicate my interest.
It is then his rest of his " duty " to reciprocate that interest.
Whomever ask who out, doesn't really matter - what matters is that the right messages are being communicated between the both of you to solidify interest.
With that said, go ahead and flirt a bit ( be bold and kinda blunt so the guy knows your legit,) and wait to see if he reciprocates.
If he's not interested, then move on to the next guy. Don't take the rejection so harshly, it happens. I've been rejected 5 - 6 times and it sucks, but don't take it to heart :)
Good luck man hunting lol :D2
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