I'm pretty attractive and I often see guys checking me out, etc.
I'm also a bit insecure so I used to shy away from ANY male attention, but recently I realized that if I even play into that just a little bit...guys will just do favors for me.
I've gotten so much free stuff here lately by just smiling at male clerks or making conversation for me.
In the past two weeks I got a free coffee, a free shot, a free drink, a free $15 membership card to a store, discounts on some items I purchased, and a free upgrade on a dinner. I never asked for any of this and I didn't even flirt(except the discount card...he was cute though! lol).
I'm sure I sound extremely obnoxious at this point, but I genuinely just realized that guys weren't going to hurt me and I could be more talkative with them...and now I'm getting all this stuff.
Do you ever find yourself going out of your way to help a pretty girl? Do you think you're a bit of a sucker for them?
Looks might play a part in it, but it's hardly the most important thing.
Take a look at your example -- you began to get free things because you changed your behavior, not because of the way that you looked.
You were always pretty... but when you started being a little bit nicer to people, they started being nicer to you.
Sure, an attractive-looking girl will turn heads. But I think what really makes a difference is making a connection with people. It sounds like you have been afraid to open up around men because you were worried that they might hurt you, maybe because you've so often seen them looking at you.
I think the fact is that although guys like looking at pretty girls, we prefer to spend time with nice, fun girls who are comfortable with themselves, and if they happen to be pretty, that's just a bonus!
I am used to pretty gals from just-met to friends to lovers, so won't go too far out of my way past something I'd do for "the opposite" type of gal. If you get really good at his, you may find yourself with a reputation that your potential "perfect guy" might avoid, thus no meeting "him" down the line.
The funny side of this was a Seinfeld episode. She could get him tickets to sold out performances, speeding tickets fixed, etc.
I think most guys and even girls do to a degree. I don't simply because I hate the idea of trying to buy someones company. But like I went to the movie with a really cute girl the other day and she was a typical hottie, blond, blue eyes, and big boobs. The girl serving ice cream at the movie theater just gave us the ice cream for free. I never get free ice cream so I assume it had something to do with my date.
no, not I think they're using their looks to get free stuff. no offense, but I can't stand girls like that. I'd have given you free stuff before you changed, when you were pretty but really shy with it.