so what does everyone think should be more important, to be muscle and physically attractive or have some confidence and be able to talk your way out of any situation or into one?
im about to go into the dating world again and I would like to know should I get ripped or should I get smart. I know both is great but which would be the better to start with. I know I look pretty good as is but I don't have a six pack but I have quite the quick witted personality that has always made good friends and gotten me a lot of relationships. but when I had a six pack as soon as a girl saw it like sealed the deal. anyone know why?
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I don't see why you can't do both, but if I had to pick, I'd say confidence for one very simple reason.
You can find plenty of guys, both here and in the real world, who have worked on their bodies and are now complaining that they still can't get women. They expected women to throw themselves at them, now that they had a hard body. And life doesn't really work like that.
You can also find people complaining about how come they see these short arse ugly looking dudes walking around with girls who are clearly too good for them? How is that fair? Are they rich, and these girls are just gold diggers or what?
You'll never find a guy who has confidence, complaining that he isn't getting enough tail.
Or rather, you might find one or two jokers who will post something like "I'm the quietly confident type. I sit in the corner alone and never talk to anyone, but I am confident, I swear. Anyway, why don't girls like me?"2
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