I've been hearing about the sad statistics about women ruining themselves to forcibly attain certain standards of beauty, maybe those portrayed in the media, or those discussed by men.
Because of this, people often assume that men are relentlessly picky about women, and that men have to love "all shapes and sizes" in order for women to stop abusing themselves. But are men really the problem, here?
A few stats:
-It's been repetitively shown that women are pickier than men when it comes to selecting partners.
-It doesn't take a whole lot of film exposure to realize that men are generally considered ugly, apish brutes. A scene of a man in his underwear is often followed by people looking away in disgust. These days, beauty is considered almost exclusively feminine.
-Men's standards are actually becoming more lax as the obesity epidemic continues to spread.
So how on earth would men's standard be to blame on women's depression on their own bodies?
I think it has nothing to do with men's selection. With the way it is, if men preferred large girls, there would be movements to "love the skinny girls." The standards make little difference.
The real problem, in my opinion is that people respect or disrespect women so heavily on their appearance, a standard that's less enforced on men. As it is now, we basically despise guys who like thin women, but that's arbitrary, and doesn't solve the real problem, just encourages hate.
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The beauty standards are created and enforced by women, not men. They have no one to blame but themselves.1