I have this friend, let's call her Cindy since that's her name. =) Her husband tells her when it's time to die her hair (she's prematurely graying and has been since high school). When she cut her hair short, he told her cutting her hair was a "family decision." What do you guys and girls think?
hair, just as with anything else, is a body part and what is done to it is solely up to the person whose body it is. personally I feel that he was totally in the wrong to say those things to her. she is not his property and neither is any part of her body, including her hair. married or not, he does not own her.
Not when it comes to do with someone's personally attributes like that. If he does not like it...and she asks him his opinion.. possibly only then can give his opinion.
If he loves her...he should not be ashamed of her...if he wants her to be happy...then he holds her and tells her she's beautiful. ..Or a sarcastic..."oh! what have I done! (as he looks at his ring)" "!" . =p
No. Its her hair...
He can f*** off. Next thing you know is he'll be wanted to tell her how to do something else...
He has a right to state his opinion. Maybe he derives sexual pleasure from her physical appearance and it's one of his needs in the relationship.
She has a right to disagree. Maybe she wants to have control over her own body and thinks she isn't just a sex toy.
If neither side caves and this issue is truly important, then breaking up is always an option. Obviously, personal opinions (such as mine) don't make it any more right or wrong. This is a decision the two of them have to settle.
When my ex.gf got her hair cut shortrt (she used to have it mid back, then she cut it shoulder length) I was pretty pissed off. I saw no reason why she had to get it cut and she looked so much better with longer hair plus she loved her hair.
She got it cut cause it was a spontaneous decision she made with one of her female friends. I told her I was upset that she didn't even consider telling me she was going to do that.
So if a girl is going to cut her hair then she should definitely tell her guy, it's only fair you know?
How would you like it if we suddenly shaved our head? Its the same thing for us.
He can be more tactful about it. If he wants his girl to have a special haircut, then he can tell her, "hey; it would be totally sexy if if you styled your hair like such-and-such!" If he articulates himself like that, the she would be more likely to comply, and he effectively how to style her hair, and they are both happy.
I think that a guy and a girl become one at marriage and that any decision should be made together. So a girl going out and getting a hair cut is unacceptable and should be discussed first. What if you had a bitch wife like britney spears that just chopped it all off? I'd be effing p*ssed! I wouldn't want to be seen with a girl that I don't approve of
family decision to cut her hair? telling her its time to dye her hair? Hrmm...
Its one thing to tell her how he likes her hair..another thing to demand or expect her to involve him in the process somehow.
Id start involving him in the decision making process of everything...from nail polish colours, to body lotions to scrubs and makeup...and there's tons of makeup choices..so we're going to be spending a lot of time in department and drugstore aisle while he gives me his opinion on exactly what shade I should wear for everything..including texture and staying power. I should dye my hair...excellent..lets look over every single box of hair colour to see exactly what shade and how much conditioning each should have...maybe we should interview salons too, so he can come with me to a few consultations to help me decide.
Or he can chilll out and have better things to do with his time than micro-manage my hair strands.
He sounds massively controlling and possessive. Just because someone is married doesn't mean that person has control over their personal decisions. Her hair is hers, she is fully entitled to do whatever she wants without his comments. Cutting hair isn't a family decision, it's a personal one.
He may/may not agree with a particular hairstyle but he has no right to demand she fix it a certain way. It's her head, her hair, her body, her life. He married her, not her hair. If he doesn't like it, he can not like it, that's fine. But getting angry to the point that he says that is a little much in my opinion. He's putting a bit of pressure on her to look a certain way. Definitely not cool in my opinion.
i think that guys can subtly hint by finding a photo in a magazine and saying, "oooh, I like this." this this particular guy sounds like a total control-freak and a whistle should be blown on this one.