As you know, the media puts a ton of pressure on women, especially young women, to look perfect and to be beautiful/hot/sexy. I know it's unrealistic for everyone to look like that and I think a lot of people would argue that it's more about confidence and inner beauty, but it's undeniable that this pressure is there and is contributing to many girls' low self-esteem and even causing harm to their bodies. I am an educated, strong, intelligent woman with a lot to offer, yet I find myself only eating very healthy foods and killing myself in the gym just so I can meet this standard of "attractive" and make myself more appealing to men. I hate falling victim to this, but I think it's hard to get away from. So, in a nutshell, my questions are girls: do you think guys understand what some of us put ourselves through? do you feel pressured to look perfect? Guys: do you care or understand how some of us feel or do you think it's crazy? Also, I do know a handful of guys that are more concern and obsessed with out they look, so I know it's not just girls that feel this way, nor is it all girls that feel this way.
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Self esteem problems are not exclusive to women. Plenty of guys face the same problems but only it's to be thin with muscle and cool clothes and a car and lots of money because girls are concerned with the same thing. But at least you have the message out there already from actual fashion models and certain magazines trying their best to tell you "no it's okay not everyone is meant to be a size 0" there are no such support messages for men telling them it doesn't matter how big your bank account is.
You feel pressure, that's understandable, it's the way the world works, the beautiful people(both men and women) will always have the preferential treatment because almost every society puts a premium on beauty, but that's life and we all have to deal with crap hands we're dealt. If a guy won't treat you well because you;re not his perfect 10, then to hell with him. Treat yourself right be as healthy as you can be even if that still means you're a size 8 or whatever if you're happy with you then you'll attract the people that want to be around you and the same goes for guys too.2