My current boyfriend thinks I'm ugly and says hot hot other woman are when he's with me and my last boyfriend did the same thing. It just makes my self esteem go down more and more. Am I that ugly? I am almost too nice of a person sometimes and people walk all over me for that and when I try to not let that happen people call me a bitch. I want to find a guy that thinks I'm the most beautiful girl in the world. I'm 23 almost 24 and life seems to be going by while all my friends are getting married. I tend to me second option to all the guys I date. What does everyone think?
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I think he's an ASSHOLE. Simple. He needs to find himself SINGLE, and QUICK. Secondly, you need to look at yourself as a beautiful woman. No matter HOW hot you are, if YOU think you're ugly, you WILL be ugly. So, THINK POSITIVE. My bet is that you ARE beautiful. You just got involved with the wrong guys. NO guy worth the substance he leaves behind in a toilet should *EVER* speak to a "girlfriend" or "wife" this way. It's called ABUSE. No, he didn't hit you, but it's ABUSE NONETHELESS. Emotional abuse can be, and often is, WORSE than actual PHYSICAL abuse. Bruises heal fast. Your MIND does NOT.
GET THE F*** OUT, NOW. Tell him that he has a MICROPENIS and that you are DONE with him--find somebody who will treat you with RESPECT. REGARDLESS of what you "look like", you ARE an INDIVIDUAL, a HUMAN BEING. And, if I've said it once I've said it a million times, I would take a woman with those "little imperfections" (the scar here, the crooked nose, or the crooked teeth) ANY DAY over some "beer commercial chick" because the "imperfect" woman is UNIQUE--she's an actual INDIVIDUAL--and BEAUTIFUL IN HER OWN UNIQUE WAY. She is NOT a plastic replica of what society today deems "beautiful".
Don't you worry, sweetie, I am CERTAIN, just by the way you write and sound, that you ARE a beautiful person inside and out and YOU *WILL* FIND THE RIGHT GUY! Look, what you ALSO need to realize is that it takes some people less time and some people more time to find the right one. It has NOTHING to do with how good you look and EVERYTHING to do with whether or not you are with the right person. You are CLEARLY *NOT* with the right person. You're WITH somebody, but NOT the right person. DITCH HIS RUDE ASS and find a DECENT guy. Don't be desperate. Don't despair. Just go about your life thinking POSITIVELY and TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF TO THE BEST OF YOUR ABILITY. What I mean by THAT is be CLEAN, be READY to meet the right guy (dress nicely when you can, etc.) Believe me, it WILL happen! And, at the FIRST SIGN that you are with somebody like who you are with currently, DUMP HIM and don't look back. Once you set your standards to what you want, it WILL come to you. You may find him as the next guy you go out with, and it may take weeding through the next 30. Nobody knows. BUT! NOBODY deserves what you have been called and YOU need to understand that AND NOT TOLERATE IT! People will DO whatever YOU ALLOW THEM TO GET AWAY WITH. Break THAT pattern and you'll be surprised at what you find! Good luck to you, Sweetie, and GET RID OF THAT LOWLIFE.0