last night I went out on a walk around my neighborhood and the college campus nearby. it was around 8 pm but it was still light out. the whole time I was walking I had my ipod in and was minding my own business. I was wearing shorts, a t-shirt (not low cut at all), and sneakers.
first when I was walking I heard a honk behind me. I turned around the guy driving smiled at me and gave me a thumbs up. I think he was saying he liked my ass. I thought that was rude to bother me like that. and gross because I'm 16 and he looked like he was 35.
then when I was on the campus a guy stopped and asked if I knew where a certain dorm was. I said I didn't because I didn't go there. he said OK, then looked me up and down and obviously zeroed in on my chest (again, wearing a regular crew neck t-shirt). then he said he was going to a party and asked if I wanted to go with him. I said no and kept walking.
i got thirsty and went into a convenience store on campus to grab a drink. while I was a line a guy said I had a "slammin bod" and asked if I was doing anything that night. I ignored him and left.
then on the way back home a guy in a truck at a red light honked at me when I crossed the street and told me I was "hot as hell". I ignored him too.
why do guys think this is appropriate? do they think it's going to get them anywhere? it sickens me that I can't even go outside for a walk without being seen as a sex object. and apparently heaven forbid if I wear shorts because it's 100 degrees out. I guess that means I want to be judged?
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Just based on my experience with douchey frat boys, some guys are practically trained to think it's a positive experience for a girl. Girls Gone Wild is an extreme example but some dummies just absorb it and don't give it a second thought. Some of them even do ponder it and what they think isn't rational, it's more like, "Well I'D like it if a girl cat-called me, so girls must like it when I do it." Like it's so hard to understand that other people aren't you. Women experience these things in a whole different way because of power dynamics, and oh yeah, the whole f***ing rape thing. Guys don't live in fear of that, unless they're in prison. For a guy, it would be no big deal, so if you don't educate yourself about it, you still think it's no big deal to women.
For your less average, even more twisted guy, it's about power and feeling macho.4