Ok, this August I am going to a community college in my city, and I could have sworn that there was no dress code and the students dressed however they wanted. But, the sad thing is, my mom wants me to dress dressy and basically, she wants me to be a conformist.
She wants me to dress as if I were to go to an interview every day when I go to college and I don't think the professors care about how people dress. I personally think that's stupid, because I hate collared shirts, especially polos. And I dislike the preppy fashion.
Tell me about your colleges and what the students wore.
My mom thinks I dress sloppy and that I should dress "decent", meaning she hates what I wear. It makes me sick to my stomach. She thinks I need to be a bit more dressy, so I can "be taken seriously". She thinks it's college. So... I have to dress more "sophisticated".
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OK. I have faculty appointment at a university (not a community college), and you and many of those who've answered already are right that professors care very little about what you wear as long as it isn't somehow disruptive. However, when a student makes an effort to engage me (by asking a question in class, coming to office hours, talking with me and others before class begins), appearances do matter. If you're dressed like a slob, chances are that your prof will, at least initially assume that your approach to your work is similarly sloppy and careless. Unless you've the means to change that prejudice, you're starting off at a disadvantage. That could mean that I'm less inclined to consider your question carefully, provide you with a thoughtful explanation or re-consider how I've graded your exam. Of course I try not to be biased in this way, but not every professor is going to bother, and I don't always have the time it might take to figure out if you're really taking my class seriously. (If you don't, then please don't waste my time or yours!) Furthermore, how you dress is indicative of how you feel about yourself. This doesn't mean that goths or punks or skaters or any other social group you care to name can or should be pigeon-holed--there'll be a range of folks within any of these, some very confident and sophisticated and others, unfortunately, less so. I don't walk from my lab to the classroom in a blazer and dress shoes; I'm mostly in flip-flops. But I do wear clean, decent shorts, pants if I'm lecturing and a decent shirt (yeah, it's probably different for faculty than it is for the students). Dressing "nicely" should still provide you with a wide range of options and the opportunity to express who you are; just because that seems to mean "preppy" to your mother doesn't mean that that's the route you have to go. Finally, it sounds as though your parents are genuinely proud and pleased that you, unlike them, are going to college. This is your mother's admittedly somewhat clumsy way of telling you that she cares. I hope that you can give her a break! I would never, ever have imagined that I'd write something like this...especially as, for years, I was one of the scruffier-looking surfer/climbers schlepping my way through college and grad school. However, showing your teachers, your folks and yourself a little respect could really serve you well down the road. I apologize, really, for preaching, but I've been in your shoes (and the despair of my mother too), and I hope you'll at least consider what I've written. Whatever else, enjoy your experience, every last aspect of it. You're incredibly lucky to be going to school.0