So there this girl at work that always seems very nervous especially around me, like she was scared of me or something. This morning I asked my other co worker who is very gossipy that she is like that around me because I looked very similar to a guy that raped her 7 years ago outside of a club. (she knows that I'm not that guy)
I'm am really offended by this that she thinks just because I look like that guy that I might be a rapist. I have never done anything like that in my entire life and I never will.
I really want to go up to her and tell her to get over it. 7 years is more than enough time to mentally recover. I've seen war veterans handle their sh!t quicker than you and what they had to go through is 10 times worse that what you went through. Go to a therapist or something and man up!
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You should approach her in a CALM way, since she seems a bit unstable. I would make sure that one of her friends was with her while you have the conversation. Just tell her that the way she treats you makes you feel uncomfortable. Tell her that you are so sorry that she had that experience, and that you would never even imagine doing something like that...guys that do that are sick and pathetic etc. If she can't get over it after that conversation just steer clear of her.
As for 7 years being enough time to recover...everyone is different. Some people are stronger than others. Therapy doesn't work for everyone /shrug.
I DEFINITELY understand where you are coming from though. She sounds like an annoying mess. Just remember that it's not you...it's 110% her!
If she starts telling people that you look like a rapist (wasn't sure from your question whether she has already one this), then don't even approach her. Go STRAIGHT to your boss! F***ing up your reputation? Oh hell no... especially in the workplace.
Hope this helps a bit :)3