But I don't think they are attracted to me physically.
But they like my personality.
Read this quote:
When you start to really know someone, all his physical characteristics start to disappear. You begin to dwell in his energy, recognize the scent of his skin. You see only the essence of the person, not the shell. That’s why you can’t fall in love with beauty. You can lust after it, be infatuated by it, want to own it. You can love it with your eyes and body but not your heart. And that’s why, when you really connect with a person’s inner self, any physical imperfections disappear, become irrelevant.
You are describing my boyfriend entirely. I'm not quite sure how hot or beautiful I am but I've dated quite a few physically amazing guys and never found what I wanted. I'm small, 5'4", athletic and muscular, and very social. Now I'm with a great guy who is skinny, not really muscular, 5'7", wear glasses, socially awkward, but wonderfully nice. Most people tell me that I'm out of his league but I don't care. I fell for my nerd when we geeked out together over some differential equations (we're both math majors).
As lame as it is to hear, be yourself. Confident in who you are. Confidence is uber sexy?
Actually, the skinny guy is my "type", but I guess it depends how skinny. Its actually very hard to say without seeing a picture and knowing more about the person. But then again I'm just picky, as I'm sure many girls are.
I'm also not sure how hot/beautiful I am, so I may not be the ideal person to answer this question, but I think I'm attractive so you're getting my answer anyway, lol.
But my two cents: if she's also kind of nerdy, then there's no reason she couldn't be into you. If she's not, then you'd have to make sure you had things in common anyway and that there was attraction there aside from attractiveness (often when people are referring to hot/beautiful women they're referring to the typical high school 'popular' girls, if that stereotype makes sense).
Don't think I'm hot but ima respond anyways. Flat chested, lanky, nerdy is all superficial stuff and can be overlooked. Socially awkward would be a turn off. Like you have to be able to hold your own in a conversation, get out of your comfort zone sometimes and be able to have fun.
I dated a skinny nerdy guy a couple years back the only thing missing was the glasses! Naturally I'm not drawn to skinny guys in that since. I prefer guys with a bit of meat on their bones cause I'm not skinny and would weigh more than a skinny guy would. lol I actually did weigh more than him too, haha. Any way it would depend he'd have to have traits that would attract me to him. I like the fact that my ex was very honest and was a very respectable guy he really did treat me like a lady...until we broke up. :/
I'm kinda a sucker for skinny nerdy guys...the only thing that would determine dateability is the social awkwardness factor. I'm kinda awkward myself so I don't look down on being a little off, but if it hinders meeting friends, family, going out to social-type events its a no-go. The physical appearance part you described is perfectly OK with me :)
Lucky for you nerdy is the new hunk.. you look at the trends in society today and its all about the nerds.. so embrace your nerd! Some girls find low self esteem attractive.. it boosts their self esteem which makes it exciting for the both of you :) don't be scared! You do you :)
I dated one when I was 19 and started college, he was nerdy looking, had buck teeth, was anti social but I found him cute and dated him for 8 months and then later on he turned into a complete ass. So no, from now on I no longer date guys like you and I am being honest. I learned my lesson.
since I am a nerd at heart, I don't know why but I love nerdy dorky guys. They have better personalities and if they are shy super bonus because I don't know why maybe its because I am out going but I love getting them to talk to me
Yes. I hate the jocks most of them are self centered jerks. (No offence). But to me he would have to be able to stand up for himself. But mistly nerdy guys can be cute in their own way. (: and in order to win me over he would have to be nice and caring and talk to me. :P bye.
I definitely would, because personality is, in my opinion, key. Looks are just a bonus. And if you fall for their personality, everything else just falls into place. In order to wind me over, he should just be himself, kind, and sweet.
I'm skinnier than 90% of guys, wear glasses, nerdy enough to do computer tech work, and have dated a couple models in the past. So yes you can be attractive to hot girls, you just have to know how. try not to be so socially awkward, get great body lanquage, learn how to talk to girls in a fun but masculine way, how to flirt, how to have great conversations, know how to dress well, GQ fits our physique good. Just understand how women think and do what they find attractive. Id reccomend you get this, it taught me alot: link and check out simple pickup on YouTube, they funny as hell, but you'll learn something to.