Do ugly people find other ugly people attractive or do they just settle for someone in their own league?
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Sometimes people settle. Certainly there are people who aren't very attractive themselves but have very high standards in terms of physical attractiveness for their partners. The people they're attracted to would probably never give them the time of day, so it's either "settle" for someone less attractive or be single.
However, I think for a lot of people, being unattractive can change your outlook on physical attractiveness. Growing up, I was nerdy and chubby. The very attractive kids seemed like a**holes to me. They treated other people poorly, and they didn't seem to have much substance. It made them very unattractive to me. Personality seemed much more important to me than physical attractiveness, and further, I became more attracted to unconventional attractiveness. Many of the physical characteristics that other people find important became trivial to me. Now, even though I've "grown into" my looks a fair bit, I tend to not be attracted to people who are "stereotypically" attractive and I find a very wide range of people attractive. I find that I'm genuinely more attracted to people who fall into the "4" to "7" range of what other people would find attractive, and I'm typically not attracted to the "8" to "10"s.
I'm not settling, it's more that growing up "ugly" has had an effect on what I find attractive and the importance I put on physical characteristics.2