I know I am going to sound shallow for saying this, but it seems like I am somehow a magnet for unattractive or just weird guys. I've never had a boyfriend before and I'm 23. the weird, "unattractive" guys they are the ones that will compliment me or flirt with me. for example, this really short and stocky Hispanic guy that bothers me in class (I don't want to sound racist), asked me "what are you doing with your boyfriend tonight"?, probably to see if I am taken or not...
this ruins my self esteem, and I'd rather not have any guy approach me.
does that mean I'm probably ugly, too?
does any other girl have problems with attracting really unattractive guys? what can I do to change this :(
i feel really pathetic for asking such a question, but I can't help thinking about this...
once again, I'm going to emphasize how I DON'T WANT TO COME ACROSS AS SHALLOW (OR RACIST). I'm just really stumped as to why I can't attract a decent, nice guy, who doesn't SMELL with some kind of intelligence...
Probably because guys that just randomly approach girls are mostly weird to begin with (no offense bros). A lot of decent guys are less aggressive and even shy, so maybe YOU should try initiating a conversation if you're interested in a guy.
I don't know if it means you're ugly. I've been approached by ugly girls a lot, they don't even mind if you turn them down, they just 'take a shot',nothing too loose. I get along with a lot of people and talk to anyone, I guess it sometimes gives of the wrong signal to insecure, uglier girls. I wouldn't consider myself ugly, so it doesn't have to mean you are either.
I know what you mean. I think a lot of times, when there is a decently cute girl, normal guys are smart enough to treat her with some respect, which to most guys, means giving her space and not randomly approaching her until they get to know her a little or she initiates contact and shows some interest.
So these weird creepers don't know any better. They figure she is out of their league anyway, so they have nothing to lose. Maybe she has low self esteem and will give them a chance. So that's why they do it.
Just tell them you have a boyfriend, and then ignore them.
Then go and find some guys who you would find acceptable, and try to become friends with them, get to know them, and hang out with them. They will probably end up liking you and ask you out, but you can always ask them also. Once you date some decent guys, you won't worry about your self esteem anymore.
Sounds like your unattractive. 23, never had a man, and only attracts weirdos and uggos? Also you may give off a super nice girl vibe, you know the type that befriends stray animals and doesn't seem threatening at all? Guys like that should be scared off by girls with status so you might want to dress a little better (assuming you dress dorky) and come across more confident (they interpret this as stuck up) to repel guys like that
Well, even ugly guys need love...can't blame them for trying. If you don't like them all you have to do is say "sorry, I'm not interested" and move on.
If you want a guy who is more attractive then maybe YOU should strike up the conversation with a guy. If you're looking for a specific type of guy then you need to be the one to get out there and find him. Nothing wrong with a girl initiating conversation.
I don't know if you're ugly or not, you're anonymous. So I'm just going to assume you're not ugly if guys are approaching you (whether you like them or not, they're still males approaching you).