so I'm dating this guy. who (I think) is immature, tries too hard, can't carry a conversation, and is slightly awkward and clingy. OH, and touchy feely. I've been in love before, and have my expectations, because they tend to follow those of my ex-loves. and this new boyfriend, doesn't exactly have any of those traits. I want a guy who can make me laugh, can carry a conversation, can be my friend, as well as my boyfriend, who I can just have an overall good time with him and create some good memories. But with this guy, it just doesn't seem to be like that.
So, I'm wondering, should I break up with him? I mean, I expect more out of a guy, and he doesn't really fulfill that need. But, I feel bad breaking up with him because we've only been dating less than a month, and we've had sex, and I took his virginity. but I mean, I feel as though if this relationship continues, I'm only going to be dating him out of pity.
and we were talking earlier tonight about this, and I didn't get any constructive responses. I got things like "ok" and "yeah..." but nothing really "real". I can't get any sympathy from him, whatsoever, and I really need an understanding guy. I feel like sympathy for him is a chore, and that whenever I come to him with an issue, he gets annoyed. so we're having this convo, when he's like "i have to go in 10 minutes" and I asked why, and he replied "oh. my tv show is on." and I felt offended because I'm pouring my heart and soul about what I feel about him and this relationship, but he has to end the phone call to watch his show.
so. do I break up with him? Or do I stick it out and hope he changes.
but hey. it's a lesson to be learned. so let it just be that way. no, I'm not a skank. trust me on that one.
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You took his virginity? You shameless hussy! Ok, you did the little scamp a favor. Very few men proudly admit to their own virginity. Yes, yes, of course you'll crush his soul when you let him go, but think of the endless months you'd have to endure trying to make this puppy act more like a grown up man. You can still be a sweetheart about this inevitable end. Write him a long letter detailing all the things that didn't work for you so he'll have something to obsess over during his period of sleepless nights. The wisdom he'll gain from the break up will teach him to correct problem behaviors far sooner than you ever could through months of meticulous training. Granted, every man is a project but they all learn faster and become more manageable after they get that first lost-love tragedy under their belts. Even Christ could not have fulfilled his biblical destiny without the help of Judas. Think of yourself a teacher with some hard lessons for a big boy striving to become more of a man. Ya, I know that's a bit thick but you get the gist. Now go find a pen and some paper.0