So I went out and done what I wanted to do for a change, and something I've always wanted to do. I got a lip pierced and my nose. They're small diamond studs on each, very small so they aren't big and sticking out etc. Anyway, my boyfriend seems like he keeps trying to intentionally hurt my feelings? For example, the things he has said:
*I caught him talking to his cousin, and he didn't think I could hear him* "Only certain girls pull it off, and I don't like them."
"Idc if you like them, they're sh*tty."
"I don't like them, and I'm making it clear."
He continually says stuff around that, and its making me feel real bad about myself. He had an ex "Rae" and she had a lip ring in the center, and he always talked about how he thought hers looked so good etc, but mine is apparently really sh*tty. Mines not in the center though, mines on the bottom left of my lip.
What should I do -_-
Most Helpful Girl
Well, he is just stating his opinion. And he said it when he didn't think you were around, you were eaves dropping. So, if it hurt your feelings that time, it's your fault.
When he told you, "Idc if you like them, theyre sh*tty", & "I don't like them, and I'm making it clear," well, he was just telling you how he feels. Do you want him to lie to you & say he loves them?
As he said, he thinks some girls can pull it off. Just like some guys can pull off the biker thing or the preppy thing. Same thing.
But what matters is whether you like it. If you do, then tell him you like it and if he doesn't that's OK, you didn't ask for his permission & you are not going to ask him again what he thinks about it.
Then leave it alone.
Remember, anytime you ask someone their opinion, be ready for anything. I'm not saying that you even asked him for it, he sounds like he'd tell you anyway. That said, consider if you want to be with someone who is going to tell you what he thinks, good or bad. If it will hurt your feelings, then you may not want to stay with him. If you do, then toughen up & speak up, because he's going to keep doing this.