Does having an ugly younger sibling effect your self esteem and your own evaluation of your attractiveness? Whenever my mom lumps both me and my little sister into the same category ( for ex, saying "our daughters are so...________)and mixes up her name with mine, I kinda get pissed off because I don't want to have to do anything with my unattractive younger sister, and makes me fee like I'm in the same league as my sister in terms of looks. she's six years younger than me, but its weird how having an unattractive little sister effects your own self worth.
Does anybody understand what I'm saying or feeling?
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In my family, there are 6 kids. I have two sisters. One of my sisters is too little to care about what she looks like yet, and my other sister reminds me exactly of you. She's 6 years older than me and because she was criticized so badly in high school for her weight, she became obsessed with her looks.
She was heavy in high school, so after she graduated, she went on a mission to become totally different and 'hot' for her 5 year reunion. She lost 50 pounds, and just changed. She started posting her pictures on hot or not websites, and she became mean. I noticed because she changed herself so much, and her personality that when she saw girls that looked a certain way she would criticize them a lot by appearance. And because she was insecure, she would tell us when a guy came to up her and told her she was hot. In front of her family, in front of her fiance at the time, in front of everyone. Bullying damaged her.
At her wedding, I at the time was 15 years old, kind of awkward, I was having problems with my skin, and I was kind of heavy too. You know what she told me? We were trying on dresses, and I told her that I wanted to change my lifestyle...become healthier and lose some weight for her wedding. She had asked me to be a bridemaid. She told me I could never do it. I didn't have the willpower and I'd always be ugly.
You know what? I did it. Not because what she said to me, not because how bad she made me feel. I did it for me. And I can say I'm a much better person than she is. She's my sister, but she's not a nice person anymore. What I learned from that is to stay how you are, and don't treat others like crap just because you're miserable inside. That's wrong and people don't deserve it.
I don't know if you put this on here to troll or not, but I was in your younger sisters shoes once, and it's a horrible position to be in. You feel like you're worthless, and those comments are just mean. I know for a fact if my sister had ever said to my face or not that she didn't want to be around me because I was unattractive, I wouldn't be talking to her anymore. That's rude, uncalled for, and just goes to show that family means nothing to that person saying it. By the way, if you have siblings your mom is always going to call you their name at some point...it's unavoidable.2
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