Hi. I've had 3 kids and now have stretched tummy skin which makes me feel very insecure whenever I'm naked and I'm wondering what men think of this type of unfixable flaw? It's not like I have 5k to drop on surgery to fix it. I'm 37 years old and have had this issue since I was 18. I don't wanna feel like this anymore.
Can any guys give me some insight on what you HONESTLY think about women with flaws of this nature and how I can look at it differently to feel better about my body? It may sound crazy at my age but I'll be real right now, I do worry about my guy (and any guy I've been with through my life) about him being tempted to be with another girl because of my serious flaw. I don't even like to look at my tummy so I know no man does either.
Most have been kind and have said it's not important but there have been a couple who told me how repulsive it is (and yes, they were abusive but they were brutally honest as well so it stuck with me). And you won't find any photos online being referred to as "sexy" with a tummy like mine. So it's not attractive. That's not my question. I just wanna know I guess how much it really matters to a guy's attraction to a girl? Is there something he's not telling me? If so, is there another way I can look at this?
Thanks in advance
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Here's how *I* see it. They aren't flaws. We're just conditioned to think they are because of beauty ideals and an industry that makes billions of dollars off of "fixing" how we naturally look.
But I guess you already believe that there's no way in hell that it can be attractive, so here's the other factor: If I'm crazy about a girl, I become physically attracted to every bit of her, even the things I might not usually be attracted to. That's certainly not how attraction works for ALL guys, but that's how it is for me. For example, I used to be repulsed by leg hair on girls, and then turns out, my girlfriend doesn't shave her legs. Now I love those damn fuzzy things. It's kind of an affection thing. And it definitely never made me want someone else.1