I used to think that looks would be the deciding factor for me until I met my current boyfriend. They certainly play an important role, don't gets me wrong, but they don't ultimately decide whether or not I'll be with someone. I always had a "type" of dark-haired, dark-eyed, tanned, and muscular...but even though my blonde-haired, blue-eyed boyfriend is a little bigger, I've never felt for guys that were my "type" the way I feel about him.
I brushed him off for awhile while we stayed friends and I went for guys that were my "type" until I decided to give him a shot. Best decision of my life.
I don't know. With my ex, I just started talking to him cause I thought he was hot and then we hit it off. But the guy I'm seeing now, I never really was attracted to. I don't think it's a deciding factor, but personality and looks need to balance out. Downvote me all you want, but if you look like a 5, I'm sure your personality needs to be higher than a 5.
Some people (and this is mostly girls I think) don't care about how the guy looks, because they know it's not important. What does that mean? It's not that they want someone who is ugly and unattractive to them. It means their priority is someone who takes care of them and makes them feel secure. That is not something that having good looks can give to another person.
Guys, on the other hand, base their self worth sometimes on how hot their girlfriend is. Which means that guys also need to understand that just because someone is hot does not mean she will stick by you when you need them to. A good looking person can be a good person or a bad person - Girls understand this more I think and tend to say looks don't matter because they know it's only on the outside and not what's on the inside. It makes for a longer relationship when the person you are with cares about who you are rather than what you look like.
Looks don't decide the relationship, personality does. I'm not attracted to attractive guys. To me, physically attractive is brown hair, some muscle on the arms, and any guy that doesn't wear skinny jeans. ;)
I really was not attracted to my ex physically, but he was the first boy that I've "loved".
UNATTRACTION is a deciding factor, but attraction isn't...especially for women.
What I mean is, a guy you aren't attracted to won't be "Mr. Right," but neither will a guy you're really attracted to but don't really like talking to or get along with.
Friend vs. BF/GF: Sexual attraction, the amount of time you have to spend with that person, and in serious relationships, the level of intimacy you allow (not just sexual, but how much you tell them about your inner life).
people don't want to admit looks are the deciding factor but a lot of the time they are very important and often what gets us to notice the person to begin with . I mean I'm not even going to notice her at a busy nightclub if she's not attractive to me on some level , there is just too many good looking girls there . so often good looks are needed to get the other persons attention in many situations . like at parties , work or busy places where a lot of people come and go .