I just finished watching a documentary on Objective beauty and Perceived beauty.
In the rating scale, an 8 or above is considered hot. And they are most likely never to get complimented. because people are intimidated by them.
Lets talk about perceived beauty (when you see someone in real life)
A female that is an 8 or above, will most likely never get complimented because she intimidates most guys. She has that "b*tchy" model look wherever she goes.
A male that is an 8 or above has a strong jaw and defined jawline. It will give off an illusion that he looks like a dangerous, fighter type of man. This will intimidate most girls and that person will most likely not get complimented.
SO! people of GaG, let me hear your thoughts and opinions.
Think about it for a second, a person who is truly an 8 or above is truly considered hot. and YOU yourself know you wouldn't have the courage to go up to them and compliment how hot they are. For example, meeting a celebrity, meeting your favorite p*rnstar, or a band member. Reason 1: you are intimidated, Reason 2: there are probably people around
Uhh sorry people, I can't find it in Youtube anymore. I think it was called "The golden ratio" or "What makes us attractive".
I think that I'm less likely to be intimidated by an attractive guy if he has an approachable personality. For instance, if he's a nice guy who is outgoing, not afraid to compliment people, and seems genuinely interested in what I have to say, then I won't feel shy about complimenting him or going up to him and starting a conversation. However, if a guy is attractive but keeps to himself and doesn't maintain the flow of a conversation or act like he is interested in me as a person, then I'm less likely to approach him. It helps to assert oneself with confidence.
This is very interesting! Can you give us the exact name of the documentary? I see this happening a lot. I mean when I see someone I find very attractive, I seem to open my mouth and say the craziest things because I get a bit nervous and my mind goes blank. Which is funny cos I'd say I'm an attractive girl and I see that happening the other way around, ie. a guy may talk to me and seem kinda nervous but he won't ask me out, they chicken out. I always initiate it and then they loosen up. But still, like I was saying, I get nervous around attractive guys and I can't be myself around them! So it doesn't work out.
However I think it's all about attitude. I'm extremely open and friendly and I talk quite a lot so people loosen up easier around me. Which is great! But now I'm wondering if what you mentioned has to do with me thinking that they are uptight (about guys who may look "dangerous" cos of the jaw, hmmmm)
Finally I want to mention that by attractive guys yeah I mean the handsome ones too but mostly I lose it in the presence of someone very confident, mysterious, cool (usually tall) guy. And last but not least, I don't care how awesome or handsome or cool someone is, if he isn't loose, a goofball, quirky, fun etc then it won't work.
So let's overcome these issues on attraction and give people a chance to loosen up and look beyond their looks:) ...easier said than done since we take first impressions seriously...
Back in my awkward days, I used to be so intimidated by guys who were overwhelmingly attractive. I was so insecure back then, I thought I'd never have a chance and psyched myself out before even getting to know if this beautiful man was worth all that much.
That intimidation factor faded away when I became really confident in myself, my look, and what I have to offer men. Also, just being very honest and real about the fact that hot people can have their issues too really makes them seem less intimidating. For example, I dated a gorgeous guy with an amazing body who was clingy, controlling, boring, and too uptight. He's human just like the rest of us but I think that's easy to look over when someone is so attractive.
She won't get compliments from guys but from other people. Perhaps, older men and women will compliment her more.
I don't see why anyone wouldn't... If I see a girl who's an 8, I would definitely compliment her. Mostly likely on her face... If I know her more on the personal side, I'll compliment on her body.
If I see a guy who's an 8... (Which is very rare) - I probably wouldn't say anything unless, I find a reason to go talk to him in the first place. A guy with a strong defined jawline will only come off as mysterious/dangerous, if he has dark hair.
Guys are more aware of their own attractiveness than girls are about themselves.
If a girl's attitude comes off 'bitchy' - To me, it doesn't change that she's hot. It won't even make her slightly unattractive... I'll just end up avoiding her. Same goes for a guy.
I guess it depends on how you look at it. I will not approach a hot guy but that is because I am shy, so no I guess I don't really compliment them. However, I blush and look down real fast, so I figure they would take that as a compliment of some sort.
What was the documentary?
I was always picked on in high school and was literally told all the time how I was ugly by guys AND girls. I lost around 90lbs a few years later and I honestly think God did a small miracle to answer my prayers because people say I'm unrecognisable now. All of the sudden strangers were coming up and randomly telling me I should model or new friends said they were intimidated by me because I was so pretty. I still think with my "ugly/fat" mindset though...So I feel inferior to all males even though a lot of guys are interested in me now. It's become it's own catch-22 because I'm so intimidated to approach ANY male and supposedly now guys are intimidated by me. Overall, yea I def agree with this documentary's logic.
The jawline isn't the most important thing that's hot on a guy I love the eyes the most and most of my girls will agree the eyes come first in hotness then the rest of the face, jawline, etc. But yes I am intimidated by a hot guy creates all sorts of butterflies and I stutter my speech if I talk to him.
If someone is considered hot, and I'm not, then yeah I will feel intimidated... If someone is considered hot, but I'm considered beautiful, then heck I will not feel intimidated!
I don't feel intimidated by males, no matter how hot they appear, but yes by women, if in the above circumstances.
I've heard mixed things on this. Some super hot women I know say they never get compliments because guys are intimidated, and some get lot's of compliments. That's in person, online girls get tons of them though.
lol someone just posted a Q about how girls talked to them less after they got better looking, so who knows. Probably because he's more intimidating, but still hotter.
I think this is why people tend to date people of similar of attractiveness ratings. It's the intimidation factor and "they're out of my league thing". Hot girl and guy might not be as intimidated by each other. Just like ugly girl and ugly guy isn't either. But take the two opposites and the lesser attractive one is intimidated.
What I wana know is what the documentary was? Love this stuff.