So I recently saw what some of my boyfriends exes look like and they're all very attractive, especially this one who is a solid 10. I am about a 6 or 7 on my good days and I feel extremely self conscious now knowing the caliber of girls he's used to. Why would he downgrade so much to date me? Is it a safety issue? And as a guy wouldn't he be constantly thinking about this hot girl he had? And please don't say maybe I have a great personality because that's the worst compliment a girl can get, that's what guys says when there's nothing good to say about how a girl looks. Please help me understand his thinking, thanks
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Solid 10 girls are hard work, nigh on impossible most of the time. They're used to everyone telling them that they're funny and interesting and agreeing with everything they say all the time, so not only do they believe it themself but they come to expect it all the time, too. In fact, they expect pretty much everything to be done for them by guys who can't see past the halo effect, and every single man I know finds a stuck-up diva a definite turn-off. Give it 20 years and she'll be an insecure wreck, still thinking she ought to be treated like royalty and beyond pissed off when she isn't.
Don't think of it as a downgrade, just a shift in his perceptions and a change in his values. You're still a 10 in his eyes, only there's more to you than just how you look.
Guys don't *only* say that a girl has a great personality when she's ugly, by the way, we don't all think the most important factor in choosing a long-term partner is how photogenic she is. If I compliment a girl's personality it's because that's what I like best about her, and it's not like she isn't going to be already aware that she's pretty so there's no point in me only focusing on her looks.0