Hi, everyone. So, I've been flirted with before and have had guys on th street say hi to me or smile and that stuff, but I rarely get approached by guys for dates. I've only ever been on a few. I'm probably not super pretty but I've never thought myself to be some kind of hideous moster (hopefully I'm not ;D ).
But it's occurred to me recently that perhaps I might be intimidating for some guys, since I've heard that fancy dressers can scare off boys. I'm 20 and around 5'7 and very thin and I try to dress very well (heels and blouses and well fitting clothes), and since I'm so quiet, I'm often alone and it might make me seem aloof. Perhaps I look over-dressed and unapproachable to most guys? Or I could just be plain ugly lol! Has anyone else ever had this issue as well, I'd love to hear your stories too?
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Do you go places where you're likely to get asked on dates? Social events and the like... Do you ever take initiative and start talking to guys in social situations?
For most average people, you won't get approached unless you make it clear that you want to be approached. Lots of eye contact, flirting, smiling, conversation. In order to do all of this effectively, it helps to go places where there are likely to be single males, as well.
If you walk around with your head down, or arms crossed or are looking at your phone, or otherwise look distracted and aloof ... guys won't ask you out.
I always had the opposite situation -- I'm average looking, but guys would ask me out even more than some of my prettier friends. Some girls don't even have their good looks noticed if they are trying to make themselves invisible all the time. I had a friend who looked like a pretty china doll, with beautiful skin and delicate featuers, but guys never saw her as attractive because she was always frowning or avoiding eye contact. They thought she was stuck up or didn't notice her at all. Then, she started to come out of her shell and met her fiancee.
Because I had a job in service, I make eye contact, smile, say hello and start conversations. Not just guys approach me, but men, women, children ... animals? :D1