why am I forever been pushed to the side for the girls with big boobs and skinny mini waists and blond hair like why are people so shallow
and then the guys I like I haven't got a hope with
i give up I'm going to be become a lesbian at this rate
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You asked an age old question that I have also asked myself and was troubled because of the answers I found.
The answer that makes the most sense comes from an anthropologic/evolutionary perspective. It was simply toward a man's interests to breed with females who were physically attractive. Physical attractiveness indicate fertility, thus higher child bearing capability. It's not a sweet, kind, loving personality that allowed our ancestor to raise strong healthy children. It was the slim hip, large breasted, fertile female. And the men today are of course direct descendants of the ones who chose women based on physical attributes only, the superfical way. You can say that men are programmed to make such a selection; it's hardwired and written through evolution. Same goes for women. You women also look for certain traits in a man, not so much on looks, but also superficial in my opinion. And you have to remember that almost all of this decision and selection happens unconsciously. Most of the time we're not exactly aware of why we're attracted to someone.
They say that mankind is a realatively new species; we're still young. Even so, I would think by now, with our highly developed neo cortex, we could AT LEAST make more thoughtful choices and selection. But no, not really.. most of us are letting our primative drive take pilot control.
Anyways irish, for your problem. Try to double check on your thoughts and attitude about relationship. Do you have an assumption that men are superficial and will leave their lover for a better looking one whenever the men get a chance? What we believe in, what we search for in life, is what we'll find.0