i feel like I'm falling for the guy I've been seeing for awhile now..i told him one night that I love him and he said it back with no hesitation but the next day when I said he just said thank you so I stopped saying it to him cause I don't want it to freak him out..some days he seems distant and talks to numerous females and they all have their septums pierced but when he asked me to get mine pierced I said no cause I think they are kind of gross looking he kind just pushed it off no biggie..but he wants me to dye my hair blonde..which all of his exes were blonde..i don't have a problem with that cause its my natural hair color but I do have a problem with it at the same time cause I don't want to be molded into so fake little bitch like his exes, blond hair, septum piercing and dressing emo as sh*t...its not my thing I try to be as girlie as possible with the side of my head shaved, piercings and stretched ears...he also said I should get a tattoo across my chest I have been wanting one for a long time but I found out his exes all had chest tattoos which pissed me off cause I want to be the one that makes him go crazy without looking like his exes. what should I do? what should I say to him? should I be worried that he is trying to mold me into his little emo doll that? or is it just what his ideal girl looks like?
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I think its a bad idea only because he wants it for the wrong reasons. Its one thing if he has the hots for blondes, but the repeated attempts to modify other elements to re-create Exes isn't healthy, and reveals the motives of the blond request as well. My advice? Don't do it.
That being said, speaking of universal truths and the like, there can be great joy fulfilling a loved one's fantasies and desires - so avoiding change blanketly could be just as bad as making it blanketly -- it really depends on you, and on the situation. You want to be true to yourself, yes, but sometimes changing for someone else can be special too.