Well me and my girlfriend have been going out for 3 months. I never thought I would love because I'm not even sure I love my parents. But one day she broke my heart talking about her ex and said stuff like still having feeling for him etc etc and then hung up on me. I cried till 4 AM and was totally lost and thought I was going crazy. I found out I loved her beyond anything. I couldn't stop calling or texting her, but had to stop soon. After going through a lot of shit she comes back. I couldn't be happier and I was back to normal able to concentrate on everything else. But she wasn't acting all normal though. When we met after a week or so at a friend's place she was acting weird. But eventually we kissed with some passion. Then while leaving she spoke about marriage, and I was like woah, thank god everything is back to normal. Just before we reached her place she stabbed my heart again. She told me " I know I'm going to sound like a guy, but I don't want to be in love anymore, I don't want to lose my options. I did not want to kiss you today because I wanted us to be only friends from now on.", I was standing there knowing I was screwed. But I told her many times before and even now that I was happy just being her friend, and told her how much she meant to and all I want is for her to be there to talk to when ever I'm feeling down. But then she goes like "if ur my friend, then I will have only one friend and I don't want that "...i thought to myself that I'm the most boring guy ever ! for anyone to say that, she's a year older, I'm truly in love and I'm she was once too...I'm sure we will end up as friends because I know she'll become better if I leave her alone, but she crossed a line by saying all that...I never argued unless required and I always gave room ( guess should have been a bastard liker her ex )...even at college my eyes were filled with tears in front of my lecturers when I argued with them for no reason and I called and texted begging her to talk just for ten min because I had my exams coming up and could not concentrate...she denied etc etc saying that I don't understand that she has problems too and can't talk...i stopped calling or texting her...its been two days and I guess I'm ok now because I told myself I don't want to go through all the sleepless nights again. I miss her sooo much, can't do anything but wait I guess...
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Sorry to hear this. I'm guilty of being that girl and I'm ashamed of what I did. However, by you texting and calling her is only feeding her ego...trust me on this one. Right now she's got the upper hand and in some sick and twisted way she knows and probably likes the fact that your after her like there is no tomorrow. Trust me, its better to occupy yourself with other things. Sounds stupid right? Don't seek revenge, don't date just to get some and forget her...NO! occupy yourself with other things that interest you. If you find yourself wanting to text or call her...write down whatever you want to say on some paper and just toss it afterwards. This will refrain you from communicating with her and perhaps saying nasty and hurtful things to her, which will only make you look like a dumb-butt. Call up some friends...create study groups with other people (maybe some girls)...and just take it easy and focus on school. The last thing you want is getting on academic probation and getting kicked out of school. The dean won't give a rats behind that you're failing cause you can't stop thinking about some girl. I'm serious!
Its easier to forgive than to forget, but in time the pain will ease down and you'll be able to move on. Don't give into her games...next time she calls you or if you two meet up..give it to her straight. Let her know that you don't have time to play childish immature games especially since she's the older one...right? If you want to make it work together..then give it to her straight. Its okay to be emotional and assertive at the same time.