This guy and I are getting to know each other better at the moment. And I;m finding out more about him - but I realize I like him a little less now. I;m not sure why -i used to have a crush on him. He was a hockey player (so am I) and I used to find him so inspirational. And he is rather good-looking plus I liked the fact he treats people really nice. Of course I didn’t know much personal stuff about him then - and i’m not sure if this process made me idolize him in a way that now that I know the “real” him - I’m don’t like him as much anymore.
I’m not sure if it’s the information he’s sharing either - they all seem rather minor. Like he idolizes celebs whom I don’t really like and they are all rather sexy, tall and fair-skinned - things that I’m not haha. He told me he dated 5 times but failed on all accounts in university. I have also heard things about him being rather popular with girls cause of his looks. Idk, I just prefer someone low profile I guess.
Have you been through something like that? - liked someone before knowing them well then finding out things and going off them? How would you deal in my situation?
yeah it could happen . not something I can recall happening to me a lot but it does happen . do remember one girl I meet at work and though she'd was a good girl . only to find out after words she wasn't who she said she was and not the type I'd be into at all . it ended pretty bad and I've never seen her since . so if you know very little about someone there is a chance you would like them less if you were to find out things you didn't like . which is why it can be important to get to know someone first before dating them
Of course. People are horrible, and if you think it is suddenly all going to be a bed of roses, then listen.
I've never been with a woman who liked me or at least she said she didn't but we stayed together for decades. Then one day I just decided to leave her and that was the last time I saw her. As she said, she didn't like me. I then believed her and understood. So finding a new woman she started saying the same thing, so I said, OK, then, I won't be doing anything with you during the day. See you tonight, or tomorrow. Then she started to think.
You can jack people around but eventually they take it seriously. Hopefully nobody gets hurt.
Sounds like he is not a bad guy. Makes no difference. If he's handsome, makes no difference. If he is nice to people, makes no difference. You don't have to like him. So what if he is superficial. You don't have to watch. Find someone who is interested in you. Life is short.
Yes I have, that new car smell wears off and your left with something bland
I know that feel
A guy that is hot, has a good body and is attractive to lots of girls, plus none of them could make him commit? He has all the classic signs of a player. So, do you want to get played to, or not? Those hesitations you have about him is your gut check telling you to be sensible and find another guy. Are you going to listen to your gut and do what you know you have to?
Ah! happens all the time! It's just the before, you could only see the covering. Now, you're seeing what's inside the covering and seems like you don't like it. It always(almost!) happens to me. I fall for hot guys then find out their not the kind I prefer :)