for goodness sakes, I just went shopping with my mother yesterday, which never fails to be a torturous experience (always telling me I have no fashion sense, and yelling at me in the middle of the store for having no interest in fashion),
She insists on buying me leather coats, blazers, and just really mature looking clothes...and whenever I pick out something she dismisses it and tells me it looks "cheap" or "stupid".
In terms of my fashion, my mom dictates what style I wear, and honestly, I feel a bit out of place with my peers who are wearing fun and spunky clothes from "Forever 21" or whatever, while I'm wearing dark trench coats and looking like a serious professional working woman.
I kind of feel embarrassed when I'm walking in the halls in Community College because I see everybody else wearing really casual, or "age appropriate" clothes and I'm wearing really mature looking clothes...
She criticizes my appearance A LOT- tells me I have no feminine qualities, and I'm so clumsy. She honestly brings down my self esteem the most. She should be happy that I'm at least complying to her wishes that I wear "older women" clothes...Jeez.
She's in her mid 40s, and always picks on me and is yelling at me, and I honestly feel like the ugliest piece of crap after she is done shouting at me. I think she behaves this way towards me because I got academically dismissed from my former University 4 years ago because I failed to pass minimum GPA . I had a case of depression and homesickness during my years at Uni which caused my academic deterioration. Now I'm at community college, and she seems to be embarrassed by that fact.
She picks on me for the smallest things and a day never goes by without her criticizing me or yelling at me for something I didn't intentionally do. For example, I accidentally washed the white towels in the laundry with a piece of red shirt, which I didn't see while sorting out the laundry. So the towels dyed into a faint pink color. She gave me hell for that and called me all sorts of insults,
She doesn't know etiquette- she yells at me in the middle of a clothing store for choosing the wrong items and not taking interest in my own fashion, and I can tell her behavior makes the customers feel awkward...
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Well not to sound racist but I'm assuming that you are probably Asian lol. Sounds like a strong case of Asian parent syndrome. Anyway I honestly think that you should just have a heart to heart with her telling her about your situation. Tell her how others at your school dress and how out of place you feel about it. Make sure you emphasize how you don't want to dress too exposed or slutty but you just want to dress more casual. Just be sure to have some tact when approaching her. Use the sandwhich method. Start off really nice... let her know that you are really greatful for whatever etc etc then tell her the problem tactfully and again more nice things and make sure to feel very sincere about it and suggest a solution/compromise to the problem.1